{"id":328,"date":"2023-10-31T02:00:09","date_gmt":"2023-10-31T02:00:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation.local2\/?page_id=328"},"modified":"2023-10-31T02:01:20","modified_gmt":"2023-10-31T02:01:20","slug":"key-3-methods-dont-work-forever-when-they-stop-what-you-do-next-is-very-important","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/key-3-methods-dont-work-forever-when-they-stop-what-you-do-next-is-very-important\/","title":{"rendered":"Key 3: Methods don\u2019t work forever, when they stop what you do next is very important"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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What should you do when your favorite method or methods stop working? This often freaks people out, because they think something has gone wrong. Actually, it is usually a good sign.<\/p>\n

Most typically it means you\u2019ve made progress and outgrown your current method. It has changed you, and as a result you\u2019re no longer aligned with the method that produced the changes. It\u2019s very important to know when this is the case, so that you can just move one.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, though, when a method stops working it can mean that you are just in a lull with that method and it will start working again. In this case you should stick with your current method.<\/p>\n

So, how do you tell? Scientific research has learned that best way to tell is to keep at it and see. If you\u2019re meditating our recommended hour a day, then go for another week or two and see if things start to head back in the right direction. If you\u2019re meditating for 20-30 minutes per day you\u2019ll want to give it another 4-6 weeks. If the lull persists, it\u2019s time to resume your search and find the new method or methods that will work for you, so you can resume heading in the desired direction.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s extremely important to figure this out. You definitely don\u2019t want to continue to use a method that is no longer working. At best it will prevent further progress, but often times it will start to actually undo the progress that it made. You see, it\u2019s aligned with the old version of you, that\u2019s who it worked for, and it will have a tendency to want to pull you back in that direction if you keep sticking with it.<\/p>\n

So you want to be especially sensitive to when a method stops working. How do you know? Often, people can \u201cjust tell\u201d. When you\u2019ve been using a method that is heading in the right direction, it can be pretty clear when that stops being the case.<\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s also a good idea to keep in mind the types of progress we\u2019re looking for and make sure that they are still happening. Recall from earlier in the video I said that this can show up as increases in wellbeing, less reactivity, better emotional regulation, less tendency to be drawn into thoughts, a quieting of the inner critical voice in your head, a greater sense of presence or being in the moment, and fewer memories from the past arising and their having less emotional charge when they do. So if the opposite of these types of things start happening, that\u2019s a good indication.<\/p>\n

Of course, things will come up in your life, emotional triggers will occur, and so on. These don\u2019t necessarily indicate a lack of progress. You want to look at things overall, the overall trend of things in the previous list, not specific incidents. Incidents will come and go, both positive and negative, it\u2019s the overall trends that matter.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s another key element put in the mix beyond just your main practice. We\u2019ll cover that next in Key #4… <\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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What should you do when your favorite method or methods stop working? This often freaks people out, because they think something has gone wrong. Actually, it is usually a good sign. Most typically it means you\u2019ve made progress and outgrown your current method. It has changed you, and as a result you\u2019re no longer aligned […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-328","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/328","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=328"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/328\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":336,"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/328\/revisions\/336"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hesychia.foundation\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=328"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}